If you’d asked me about marriage 17 years ago, I would’ve given you the fairy tale answer. I was committed to the man I loved, I was getting married, I was staying married and that if by some crazy stretch of the imagination I ever got divorced, I would never marry again. Once and done. If I couldn’t make it work the first time, clearly marriage wasn’t for me. Being married would be easy. We loved each other and that’s all that mattered, right?
17 years later, this divorced mother of two has very different opinions of marriage.
Marriage is hard. It’s anything but roses and sunshine. Well, maybe it is like roses, but it’s like roses on a giant thorn filled bush. You want the beautiful bouquet, but to get it you need to put on thick, long sleeves, heavy gloves and be willing to risk the thorns and a little blood shed to clip their stems, clean them up and bring the beautiful bouquet inside. And all of that is after you’ve feed it, prevented pests from destroying it and kept it watered all Spring and Summer long. You can’t ignore it until the point of near death, through some fertilizer at it and hope to bring roses in the house next week. Roses don’t work that way and neither do marriages.
Fixing a marriage that’s in trouble isn’t as easy as reading “date-night” articles and trying to have more fun together as a couple. It’s about a lot more than that. My marriage wasn’t health long before I got to the point of wanting a divorce. When you’re to the point of questioning divorce, there are much bigger issues that need to be tackled along side those. The ideal time to fix a marriage that’s in trouble is far before you get to the point of the “d-word”. Could knowing how to fix things before they were broke beyond repair have saved my marriage? Maybe.
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About Mort Fertel:
Mort Fertel is a world authority on the psychology of relationships and has an international reputation for saving marriages. In addition to working with couples, he teaches individuals how to single-handedly transform their marital situation.
A graduate of the University of Pennsylvania, Mort was the CEO of an international non-profit organization, and a former marathon runner. He lives with his wife and 5 children (including triplets!) in Baltimore, Maryland.
If you’ve been there yourself, what tips do you have for couples who may be having struggles in their marriage?