1 – Being a girl isn’t a reason and it should never be an excuse.
There is nothing you can’t do because you’re a girl, and there’s nothing you should discount your own ability to do because of it either. If anyone tries to tell you different, look at it as an opportunity to correct a misconception. A chance to prove the world wrong. Never look at it as a reason to hold yourself back or let someone else do it for you.
2 – There will always be someone telling you you’re ‘being selfish’ or ‘doing it the wrong way’.
We call it the ‘Mommy Wars’. Someone is always measuring you up. You did this or didn’t do that, or you did X when you should’ve been doing Y. This is a battle you won’t win. Learn to go your own way, and care more about what you want and how you think you should be doing things and worry less about everyone else.
3 – You don’t have to have babies.
Don’t get me wrong, I’d love to have grandkids at some point in the very, very distant future, but having kids isn’t for everyone and that’s ok. Don’t feel pressured by society to have kids if it’s not what you want to do. There are plenty of women who have completely fulfilling lives without having children.
4 – You don’t have to get married.
Just as with babies, the same is true with having a husband. It’s not a requirement and shouldn’t be viewed as such. Learn to stand on your own two feet, learn to love, learn to understand yourself and what you need. Then, and only then, if you find someone you want to share that with, do. Just remember, you don’t need a piece of paper to do that.
5 – Respect yourself, otherwise never expect anyone else to respect you.
This is a biggie, little girl…especially as you hit those formidable teenage years and your early 20s. You have got to have some self-respect and show it. If you let yourself be run over or put into compromising situations, you’ll find that those will become repeat scenarios for you. No one will respect you more than you respect yourself, so set the bar high.