Are you in a lovieless relationship?

Not loveless.  Lovieless.
Up there with my daughter, that’s Blue.  Blue is a girl.  She’s been with us since before Addison was born.  She was a baby shower gift.  She is the original Blue.  There are others, but Little Miss Sunshine knows the difference.  You see, the girl took Blue to school with her once.  The teacher wrote Addison’s name on Blue in permanent marker.  There was a little incident which resulted in me buying spare Blues off Ebay at $18 each, but we were eventually found out.  Now, Addison carries around not one, but two Blues.  THE Blue is her favorite, but Blue #2 is a fairly constant companion.
Here is my dilemma…when do we cut her off?  Do we cut her off at all?  She’s almost 5, will start kindergarten in 11 months and we’re starting to feel pressure from our families to put the lovies away.  We don’t let her take Blues to preschool, she can’t take them in stores or to the playground, park etc.  We will let her bring them in the car, but only if she asks.  She sleeps with them every night.  If she looses one during the night, when she wakes up she’s immediately on the hunt.
So, what do you think?  Do we let her hold on until she gives them up herself?  Will she eventually be ready to let go on her own?  Have you been through this before?  Help a mama out!
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14 Responses to Are you in a lovieless relationship?

  1. itsmeterilyn says:

    All three of my kids had blankies. I let them have them until THEY were ready to give them up. My girls used theirs into high school but only when they were sick! It’s such a simple little thing that gives them such great comfort. Let her keep it. And so what if she is the first ever lawyer to carry her ‘blue’ in her briefcase. 🙂

  2. Shiloh says:

    I don’t know if this is tattling on my brother or not, but he had a green blanket, and finally, when he was 10, my sister was born. My parents had him give it to her. He only had it on his bed at night. It was more like a good buddy. I think what you do in your home is your business.:)

  3. Crystal says:

    I have 3 kids, never dealt with this personally, but I believe in letting them be young. Just make sure to keep it clean. Good post! KUP :0)

  4. Charity says:

    I will say now that I do *not* have any children. However, I was in my teens when I finally stopped sleeping with my lovies. 🙂 As long as she isn’t dragging them to school or other places with her, I really don’t see what the fuss is about. She’ll stop sleeping with them/hanging out with them when she’s ready to.

  5. ashrehorn says:

    I think you’re doing it right. Just let her have Blue in Bed and at home. That’s what we do with Tebby. No reason not to have a self-comfort item.

  6. Jamie says:

    I would first ask yourself,
    are you taking it away for HER sake, or YOURS or EVERYONE else’s.
    If you end up deciding it time for blue to go away- if it were me dealing with the situation, I would go ‘cold turkey,’ especially because of her waking up and needing him in the middle of the night.
    Isn’t parenting fun?!
    Good luck!

  7. two of my kids still have lovies. The kids are 11 and 7. They no longer bring lovies on trips, they are too worried they will get lost or left behind. I had friends in college who still had stuffed animals. I would not worry too much, unless her attachment is unhealthy. If she can leave her lovie behind she will be fine.

  8. Stacy says:

    All 3 of mine still have theirs shhhh!

  9. don’t hate the Blues! love the Blues- she is growing so fast and they will be gone before you know it & you may even be surprised at how you actually miss them! 🙂 my post is about this similar topic . . .

  10. Coffee Lovin' Mom says:

    She will be proud when she’s older that she still has it. My grown sister still has a beat up monkey named George that she took on her family Disney trip a few years back. I’m sad I don’t have one. I vote let her keep it as long as you have boundaries as to when and where she can have it..

  11. I came here to stumble… but I love this post!!

    My son (YES, My SON!) had a Blue that he slept with. He couldn’t sleep without it. We didn’t know when to pull him from it either. We tried giving him a hard time about it once he got older, but he didn’t care. He loved it. He finally gave it to me when we packed to move… he was 12. Yep. 12. I still have that Blue in my dresser drawer. I love it. It reminds me of how innocent he was.

    Good luck!

  12. Kathi says:

    Thanks for stumbling my post…I wouldn’t ever take them away….my son got a little stuffed Pikachu at 2 yrs old…he’s 14 and still has it…he doesn’t bring it to school or anything…but I often find when he goes out…it’s in his pocket…he would freak without him..he always said he’s magic…that he used to hide…and we’d look for him…and suddenly he’d be where we already looked…the poor pika..had so many sewing surgeries…is old looking…and he has three others we bought…but none are the same as that Pika…the others still look great…after all these years…so as long as she doesn’t take it out all the time in a few years…I say let her have it…I never cared what others thought….have a good weekend…

  13. Returning the stumble!

  14. Julia says:

    Honestly, I don’t think it’s an issue right now. If she can go to preschool and public places without dragging it around I would let it be. My son is 5 and still occasionally wants to sleep with a “burpie” and we haven’t totally taken them away. He is gradually moving away from it himself and I think it should be at their own pace.

    Thanks for the stumble!

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