I Will Never… And Then I Did

When it comes to parenting, there will never be more famous words than “I will never let my child…”  You can finish that sentence.  It can be anything from “wear clothes like that” to “act like that in public”.  We are so naive – and be “we” I mean parents, before we become parents.

I will never #parentingAs far as parenting goes, there will never be a statement more destined to be broken than this one.  I speak from experience.  No matter how prepared we think we are for this whole parenting gig, most of us totally aren’t.  We aren’t physically prepared and we aren’t mentally prepared – at least not with the first kid.  After that, most of us have an “adjusted” idea of how the real world works and we realize just how many of those “I will never” statements we get to eat.

One of my “I will never” parenting moments was when I agreed to let my daughter compete in pageants.  Yes, I initially thought it would be a one and done sort of thing, yet here we are.  She had professional headshots taken last week.  My 7 year old has professional headshots.  Even I have a hard time processing it.  Do you know how long it’s been since I’ve had a professional hair/makeup session?  Um, let’s see… I think I was about 5 months preggo with this little cutie and was in my sister’s wedding.

Natural Pageant HeadshotLet’s see… I’ve also sworn I would never let my kids run the neighborhood without supervision, sleep in my bed, turn me into a short-order cook… I’ve eaten all of those words.  Maybe we should stop saying “never”.  My therapist (yes, I have one) says “never” and “always” are akin to curse words.  Using them is bad.  In using them, you are simply setting yourself up to fail.  Who wants to do that?  Certainly not me.

I’m learning to use “always” and “never” much less and I think I’m a better parent for it.

What do you think about the phrase “I will never…” as it relates to parenting?  What is one of the things you said you’d never do/let your child do, yet you have eaten those words?

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9 Responses to I Will Never… And Then I Did

  1. I am so with you on this. I was that mom that said I would never give my kids juice, never let them watch tv before homework was done, etc. That all went out the window once I realized what it was really like being a parent.

  2. I completely agree with you. I’ve thought to myself that I would never do this and always do that and you find out it’s different when you become a parent, when you have a child whose personality doesn’t align with your never and always’ when you have more than one child and the list goes on. In life we have to do what we feel is best for our family and I’m glad you’re open to exploring what Little Miss is interested in even though you thought you’d never be here. She is gorgeous and funny!

  3. HA! I love this and can totally relate! One was I’d never let my child walk around with no shoes in public places…. so gross right? A mama’s gotta do what a mama’s gotta do :)

  4. Deanna Ritz says:

    Love this!! I have eaten those same words so many times! I will never…let them get what they want when they are throwing a fit! Yep, I’ve done it! I’ve caved! Oh well. :)

  5. Jennifer S. says:

    This makes me think of the song “Never Say Never” from American Tail. My mom definitely reinforced this principle growing up, and I’m glad she did!

  6. Danielle says:

    Your daughter is gorgeous!

  7. Laura says:

    My therapist said that too! but, i mean, I know my parents were a lot more lax with my younger siblings than they were with me (being the oldest).

  8. Kerry Cairns says:

    Oooooo I totally understand! I have tons of those *I will never….* and well….here we are! haha! On another note, I would LOVE to see some posts on pageant advice, tips, etc! Like getting your child started? But then again, my child has the attn span of a rock, sooooo…. :)

    • mamamommymom says:

      Oh, gawd… I am not the one to give you pageant advise… that would be my sister! I let her run the show and tell me what to do most of the time. This is SO not my thing! LOL

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