When it comes to parenting, there will never be more famous words than “I will never let my child…” You can finish that sentence. It can be anything from “wear clothes like that” to “act like that in public”. We are so naive – and be “we” I mean parents, before we become parents.
As far as parenting goes, there will never be a statement more destined to be broken than this one. I speak from experience. No matter how prepared we think we are for this whole parenting gig, most of us totally aren’t. We aren’t physically prepared and we aren’t mentally prepared – at least not with the first kid. After that, most of us have an “adjusted” idea of how the real world works and we realize just how many of those “I will never” statements we get to eat.
One of my “I will never” parenting moments was when I agreed to let my daughter compete in pageants. Yes, I initially thought it would be a one and done sort of thing, yet here we are. She had professional headshots taken last week. My 7 year old has professional headshots. Even I have a hard time processing it. Do you know how long it’s been since I’ve had a professional hair/makeup session? Um, let’s see… I think I was about 5 months preggo with this little cutie and was in my sister’s wedding.
Let’s see… I’ve also sworn I would never let my kids run the neighborhood without supervision, sleep in my bed, turn me into a short-order cook… I’ve eaten all of those words. Maybe we should stop saying “never”. My therapist (yes, I have one) says “never” and “always” are akin to curse words. Using them is bad. In using them, you are simply setting yourself up to fail. Who wants to do that? Certainly not me.
I’m learning to use “always” and “never” much less and I think I’m a better parent for it.
What do you think about the phrase “I will never…” as it relates to parenting? What is one of the things you said you’d never do/let your child do, yet you have eaten those words?