Life with a Threenager

I don’t even know where to start.
Addison and I have a love/hate relationship.  I *think* that’s somewhat normal.  Even if it’s not, please tell me it is.  I could really use hearing it, even if it’s a lie.
How can this cute, sweet little girl be so angry and just plain mean?  She’s been difficult since before her second birthday.  Things really got bad around the time I found out I was pregnant with her brother.  I wrote it off as a reaction to the pregnancy and that she’d get over it soon enough.  With Cullen’s birth rapidly approaching, things weren’t getting any better.  I knew there were going to be serious behavioral issues after he was born.  I also thought, with Cullen rapidly approaching his first birthday, we’d be past it at this point.  No such luck there.
Addison literally beats on her little brother.  I’ve tried everything I can to combat it.  No success.  She’s currently residing in a room void of toys.  She has books and that’s pretty much it.  I’ve taken all of her dolls, her dress up and everything else that was in her room.  She literally has her book shelf, her dresser and her bed.  I *thought* that would have an impact, seeing as how she sleeps with literally 14 Barbies, 5 or 6 stuffed animals, several blankets and random throw pillows.  No dice.  She could care less.
We’ve spanked, we’ve done time-outs, we’ve ignored.  We’ve tried praise, reward charts… All with no luck.  She’s a perfect angel at preschool, so I know it’s not beyond reason to expect something better at home.
How do you reason with a 3 year old?  Tell me this will get better soon?  Mama needs a padded room!
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2 Responses to Life with a Threenager

  1. Jessie says:

    When you figure out the mind of a 3 year old please let me know 🙂

  2. Jen says:

    I think 3 years olds are the most challenging. Not sure why 2s get such a bad wrap. (my kids are 8,6, and 4 mths) I would continue w/ timeouts to get her away from the situation and to reinforce that there is a consequence to her action. Also, I’d continue with the rewards when she is being kind. If you think it is out of control, you can always ask your pediatrician for advice, too. Parenting is the best, but most challenging job. 🙂

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