What If My Son Is Gay?

With the official word out on the status on Anderson Cooper’s sexual orientation, I can’t help but wonder what things will be like for my son if life ends up pointing him in that direction.
Nature vs Nurture is a debate that will never end.  Personally, I feel like it can be either/or and sometimes both, and that not only applies to sexual orientation but to many aspects of life.  I know many people who’ve looked at their families and how they were raised and said ‘this will not be my life’.  I also know the flip-side, those who fall right in line and never break out of the life their families design for them.
I also believe that many people feel a certain way because they’ve always felt that way.  It’s just how they were made.  I don’t see it any different than how some people don’t like fish or sports.  It’s just who they are.
Will my son like boys?
If he does, will it matter?
Being only three, Cullen has a lifetime of years ahead of him.  How will society change in those years?  Will it still be news 15 years from now if a grown man says ‘I like men’?  Will he have to worry about his co-workers finding out or that he can’t show affection publicly to someone he loves for fear of how others will react?
Will we still treat other human beings so poorly in 15 years?
My only wish for my son is that he grows up happy.  My wish for society is that they will let him have his happy, no matter if it’s with a man or a woman.
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5 Responses to What If My Son Is Gay?

  1. {Shannon} says:

    This is the best post EVER. No, really! EVER! It really got me to thinking…..Don’t we have enough going on in this crazy world? So much war, starving children, our country’s debt, global warming, disease (couldn’t I go on forever?) that we have to be concerned with? Why should we be worried about someone’s sexual orientation. I hope that in 15 years no one will bat an eye when someone says they’re gay. I’m with you, if my kiddos are… as long as THEY ARE HAPPY… leave them be!

  2. Melanie says:

    Hi Jaime,
    We’ve talked on Twitter before but I just wanted to stop by and let you know that you are doing a fabulous job with your blogs and I enjoy reading them… MOM of one 4 year old little girl, I totally can relate to you. ps. Nothing wrong with being gay… I have good friends that are in stable relationships and they are happier than some of my straight friends. People are who they are and the world should just accept… just my 2cents. Melanie https://www.facebook.com/pages/All-About-Interiors/389571254403435 @aaiconnecticut.

  3. BRAVO!!! Fantastic post. Love, love, love! 🙂 With pink, puffy hearts! Great job! Off to share!

  4. Bravo! I hope beyond hope that it is not news in 15 years – that people are able to just BE – whatever it is they are.

    And I’m so happy to read that your biggest wish for your son is happiness. If all parents focused on that, I think the world could be a much happier place 🙂 You’re a great mama! xo

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