I’m not one to use my site, and yes – this is MY site – to rant. I generally reserve that for my close personal friends, whom I bombard with incessant text messages until I get out whatever has grated on my nerves. Today though, this is one you all need to hear. BACK OFF THE NICU MOM.
This is my friend Stephanie. She lives in Texas and writes at The Vintage Modern Wife. Have we met in person? No. “Then you don’t really know her and she’s not really your friend.” Wrong. I know more about her and what she’s been going through than most of the general population. I know she’s a good person trying to make ends meet for her family. I know her heart is bursting with joy and breaking with sadness, all at the same time, every minute of every day. I know that Stephanie has cried herself to sleep more times in the last month than she has in her entire life.
Stephanie is a NICU mom.
Before Stephanie’s baby girl was born, she and her husband knew they were in for a hard road ahead. Stephanie has shared much of what’s been going on her on Facebook page for The Vintage Modern Wife. Her life for the last 6 week has been anything but a cake walk. If you’ve never experienced having a child in the hospital with an illness (let alone a newborn) you can’t even begin to imagine. She has even given up her job as a teacher so that she can spend as much time taking care of Addy as possible.
Like most of us who blog as a source of income, whether it be full-time or supplemental, we take on sponsored post or stories from time to time. Very often, these deals are set up pretty far in advance, though not always. Some are quick little projects that pay little and some are more involved and pay a lot. We take on projects… some because we love the concept, some because we need the income, some because working with a particular brand is just too good to pass up.
Stephanie took on a project with Lindt Chocolate – I did not work on this project, but I have bought the chocolate and it’s AMAZING!. She spun her piece into a story about making friends in the NICU. She spends A LOT of time there.
I publish 99% of the comments that come through on my site. I generally don’t filter the mean ones out, so long as they aren’t filled with adult content or spam, up they go. From time to time, I’ll get a comment that stings a little. I try to let it roll off and move on. Sometimes, there are comments that get under my skin and I just can’t shake them. Today, that comment wasn’t on my site, but on Stephanie’s.
I’m not usually one to judge, at least I try not to be, but I will certainly pass judgement here. Maddie, you’ve clearly never had a child in the hospital. If you had, you’d know that the time you spend sitting, waiting, hoping… that time is time your mind races. All of the horrible things that could go wrong for you, for you child and for the children of those around you. In the silence, the time spent while babies are in surgery or otherwise where you can’t hold them, love on them, care for them… your mind swims with all of this awfulness. Sometimes, you need to do something else. And doing that something else, whether it’s a crossword puzzle or writing a sponsored post (by the way, NICU isn’t FREE!) that IS how you take care of your kid.
So, Maddie, you wanted attention? (I mean, what other reason would there be for leaving a just spiteful comment like that…) Now you have it. You have the attention of everyone – EVERYONE who cares about Stephanie and baby Addy. You have the attention of NICU moms everywhere. I can guarantee you they will all be thinking about you tonight and hoping you never have the chance to see just how wrong you are.
For those interested in showing support for Stephanie, Addison and their family, some of her blogging friends have put together a t-shirt sale. The t-shirts are $25 and all proceeds go toward helping Stephanie and her family cover Addison’s medical expenses. If you’d like to order a t-shirt, just click on the image above. If you’d like to help in another way, feel free to reach out to me via email and we’ll figure it out! firstname.lastname@example.org
The response and amount of encouraging words for Stephanie has been amazing. You guys don’t even know how much it means to Stephanie (and me!) to have you all comment here, on Facebook and everywhere else this has been shared. You guys are amazing!